“Warning: when feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.” – Dr. Joe Dispenza
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So many of us react out of what or how we are feeling in a specific moment. When you feel overly stressed, overwhelmed with anxiety, overcome with saddness, the first thing you do is something to not feel that way. For some people that is drinking, for others it is drug use, either way it gives them a chance to escape that feeling, to escape reality. But when you give yourself a chance to sit with those feelings, you give yourself a chance to understand those feelings. Get to really know them, journal them out, inventory them and let them happen. Once you start to understand the feelings you can ask yourself why you are feeling them? Avoid making any permanent decisions based on a temporary emotion.
One of the biggest driving forces behind my alcohol abuse was my emotions. Anytime I felt pain, rejection, or loneliness I would turn to the bottle. I wanted to escape feeling the pain, but what I didn’t think about in that moment was those feelings would still be there when I sobered up. I could drink all the alcohol in the world, but that never truly “fixed” how I was feeling. That desire to escape feeling led to an abusive relationship with alcohol that caused only more shame and guilt. Once I removed the alcohol I was left with all the emotions. That’s where the real work began.
I had to face my pain, my shame, and my guilt. I had to forgive myself; for not loving myself enough, for speaking to myself the way that I had and for not knowing what I know now. I began to date myself. I went on dates with myself, I showered myself in love and attention, and I spent quality time with myself. I stopped focusing on hurting and started focusing on healing. In the process of healing I realized no person or thing would ever complete me or validate me. I no longer lived with the mentality of cause and effect, but shifted into a mentality of causing an effect. The moment I started feeling gratitude and worthiness was the moment I started generating wealth. I started to fall in love with myself and my life. I’m now leaning in and creating the feelings I want to experience. The ego tells you once everything falls into place you will feel peace, but your soul is saying, feel peace and everything will fall into place. 💫